12 Nov Kiss me like you love me – take me with your anger
Many get turned on by 50 Shades of Grey, but does he release his frustration in a healthy way?
During my early sex life, I was careful with the girls. I looked good enough so I got laid, but I probably looked like a well-groomed boy with the cap in his hand on the way to Sunday school. Any girls getting turned on by that? Perhaps it evokes your mother feelings. 😉 If I was a bit drunk I could be a little tougher, but in return I did not feel into the girl to be able to react to her subtle signals. I do remember when I got really angry for the first time having sex with a girlfriend. I was afraid she’d get scared, but instead she looked back at me with a completely new, dark and horny gaze.
According to my tantric teachers the feminine long for being dominated by a present and compassionate masculine force. The longing is to be completely taken and totally open to the “divine”. They say that most girls know this deep down, but it also applies to the feminine in men. Oops, that may be sensitive to some? Sorry, let’s concentrating on the usual gender roles…
The popularity of the film 50 Shades of Grey is a clear example of this. Although the guy is selfish, mentally unstable and not very empathetic many girls still like him being so dominant, assertive and “dark”. The second option for many is the equality man who is also the woman’s best friend in today’s society. Not so hot perhaps, even though equality is good at work. But there is a third type, and that is the man who can use his anger, even rage, in a conscious and healthy way to open his woman sexually. Learn more about David Deida’s three stages in the 3rd stage relationship in the dictionary. Here is a story of a tantric man (who does not ejaculate away his sexual energy) who consciously use his anger in bed.
Warning: This text may be challenging for some – only read if you really want to.
Great song for sex like this:
We stood and kissed next to the bed and I could feel the strength in my body increase. It was like I had left remnants of frustration from the day at work. Anger that had not come out. How nice to be able to use it to take my girlfriend! I know she likes it. She was so nice standing there in her panties with her cute little tanned body and bare chest. Sure, she looked innocent, soft and feminine – but appearances can be deceiving I thought. You just have to start out slowly.
I take a firm hold of her wrist, leading her toward the top of the bed. I tell her to sit down on the bed and she looks up at me with a look that is a mix of feminine softness and horniness. I take out a rope and bind her hands slowly in the bedframe, before I put her on her stomach in the bed. She starts to move subtly when the awakening energies flow through her body. I love to see it. I take out the coconut oil and start massaging her with loving but direct hands. When I come down to the vagina and butt, she begins to moan lightly.
My cock has slowly become hard by feeling into her horniness and I feel how the anger within me almost has grown into rage, but somehow it transforms into a stronger presence. “You are so hot when you lie there baby. Your beautiful body makes me so horny, your feminine moves and your sexy sounds. I can not guarantee I will take it easy with you when I’m so horny on you.” My voice was stronger than usual, it was almost like the cock spoke and she groaned extra when she heard it. I penetrate slowly into her with all the electric charging of my body. I am waiting for the connection between my cock and her cervix and after a few seconds both of us jolt slightly and we are connected.
It feels so good in each centimeter of the dick and I grab her hips where I sit on top of her. She closes her eyes, moans and pretends discreetly to try to escape. “You’re going nowhere, now I will use your amazing body and your pussy as long as I feel like it,” I say to her with a playful but stable voice. I feel the strength in my hands, it almost itches in them and I hold onto her hip and shoulder while I start to fuck her deeper. She’s getting really wet and I notice that I can take it to the next step. “My cock gets so hard when you’re like this, my sexy slutty baby”. I grab her shoulders, lean forward over her and starts pumping hard from behind. Bang, bang, bang! She moans real loud and almost seems to disappear into another world.
I’m helping her up on all fours. “I want to look you in the eyes when I fuck you,” I tell her. She looks back at me with dark eyes. God, I get so turned on when she looks like that! I grab her hips and feel how my whole body is filled with the pent-up anger. She feels totally open and ready (and de-armorerad to not feel pain), now I will not hold back any longer. I’m so mad at her and punishing her hard from behind, while we look each other in the eyes. Bang, bang, bang-bang-bang-bang! It seems that she gets a darker and more horny look in her eyes the more I dare to go harder. I love this woman, she is so hot! I let go of the very last, grab her hair with one hand and fucking her with my full rage. There is a tremendous force that I do not know where it comes from, it washes through my whole body from the feet upwards and through her also. “Aaaaaaarrrggghhh!”, I’m shouting out my anger. We lose eye contact and she seems to disappear elsewhere.
After a minute it calms down, I feel completely empty and her whole body is soft and nice like after a full body massage. “Thanks for that! What a liberating feeling, it was completely impossible for me to think at the end. It was like you fucked me up in to the brain,” she exclaims. “Thank you too, you were crazy hot and it was a relief to get rid of the anger.” I turn her around and lie down between her legs. We kiss slowly and deeply and then I lie still inside her in quiet meditation. It is so still and relaxed, with a loving vibration between us.
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