10 Mar No plans for Easter? Why not get a new sex life in Mexico…
“My friend, only for you. New sex life in six day!” Does it sound too good to be true? Or maybe it sounds scary? For you who have been reading my blog you know that I got a completely new sex life when starting with tantric sex about two years ago. I started by reading about it and practicing a little bit by myself and with a friend. But it was not until I went to my first workshop that things really started to happen.
Going to a sexual workshop may sound very challenging to most people, but if you think about it what is there really to be afraid of? Sometimes I find myself being worried about something, it could be something as simple as holding a speech in front of people. Then I ask myself; “who is the one that cares so much?” My experience is that we grow as human beings if we dare to face our fears, instead of letting them dictate our lives. Our comfort zone increases, which makes us freer to explore, which in turn often leads to a more interesting and enjoyable life.
However I have to admit, I had no idea what I was doing when I applied to that tantric course two years ago. I had been to a party that was really good with unusually open-minded people and sexy atmosphere and in that party people advised me to try this workshop out. I felt quite confident going there. “I have been doing years of therapy, I have recently done the intense retreat Path of Love, I have a lot of experience from sex and have no problem picking up girls. This will be a walk in the park”, I thought to myself. Little did I know about the fear and shame I had around my sexuality.
My confident attitude quickly changed to a more humble one when the workshop started. We were about 50 participants and it was a nice atmosphere, even though some seemed a bit nervous. There were all ages between 20 to 65, most were between 30- 40 and it was about 50/50 of men and women. I had heard some rumours about the teacher Alex, for instance that he was the “Darth Vader of tantra” and “that he has extreme energies and could manipulate entire crowds”. No doubt he had an unusual appearance. He was 47 years old, slim and fit, long hair in a ponytail, very tight and feminine clothes, plucked eyebrows and piercing in his ears. He had a charisma out of the ordinary, tough humour with irony and sarcasm of the kind I like, and he was obviously very quick in thought and speech. It was with mixed emotions I listened to him, but the more I began to understand his ways, the more I came to appreciate him as a teacher.
The following six days I learnt far more about sex than I had done in my then 31 year long life up to that point. And really, there was nothing to be afraid of – we were all in the same boat. It was theory in the mornings and then different exercises in the afternoons and also a couple of parties in the evenings. I learned about the peak orgasm, I had my kundalini awakened in the spine, I learned to de-armour a vagina, to relax my body, to go deeper in my masculine energy and to familiarize myself with my feminine energy, to heal wounds from my childhood, to get a deeper connection with a woman, to get deeper and longer tantric orgasms and many other things. I can truly say that there was one type of sex before that retreat and a completely new sex life after. I have said it before and I say it again. Sex is better every time today, compared to the best sex I ever had before this workshop. I feel so much more in my body and can also serve the woman better.
During these two years a lot has happened and sex is only one part of all that has changed. But I think it is an important part of life. In anonymous surveys most people put fulfilling sex as one of the most fundamental aspects of a happy life. We all have the capabilities of amazing orgasms in our bodies and it is a quick way to get out of our heads, relax, heal our bodies and simply enjoy the pleasure.
You know how it is when you have found something you think is amazing. You just want to share it with your friends. So far three of my “old friends” have done this tantric sex workshop and three more have signed up to do it this spring and summer. I dare to say that in principle everyone seems to benefit from this sexual de-conditioning workshop. Everybody gets hornier and happier. This makes me especially pleased. That it is considered less weird and more natural to explore our sexuality.
I have become a friend of this Alex and he is also my mentor in some aspects of my life. I know some think there is a kind of sect or cult around him, but everything can become a sect if you make it into one. It could be a football fan club, a Christian church or an MC-club. For me this is just a bonus in my life. I go on doing what I feel like with whomever I feel like. A few times a year I assist Alex in his workshops and the next time I will do so is over Easter in Tulum, Mexico. It is a really nice hotel and there are still spaces left. So why not take a wild step into the unknown? Six days that may change your life. You always have a choice to go back to what you had before…